What are the best marriage books ever written? These are my top picks. As a lawyer, I’ve seen many cases through the years. Our firm handles divorce and custody cases, but we also see families driven apart during probate or breaking up a family owned business. Marriage is the cornerstone of the family, and upon it stable family relationships are built. Reading the correct books, therefore, has the power to help build a sturdy marital foundation and strong families.
After reading dozens of marriage books, I’ve determined these are the best ever written. They are recommended reading for young people, engaged couples, newlyweds, and those of us who have experienced years of marriage.
These books matter for two reasons. First, they contain wonderful insight into marriage. Second, when a couple reads the same book, it unifies them. Not only do they experience the unifying power of reading together, but they also take in the same information thereby creating common knowledge moving forward.
These five books standout as the best marriage books ever written:
Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments Every Couple Needs to Make
Purchase “Marriage” by David Paul Tripp
David Paul Tripp’s book on Marriage drives to the heart of Christian marriage. He explores the essential commitments husbands and wives must make to establish a meaningful marriage. Applying his vast experience and knowledge of the Gospels, Tripp shows readers true wisdom.
The Meaning of Marriage
Purchase “The Meaning of Marriage” by Tim Keller
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim and Kathy Keller instructs married couples on the Christian view of marriage. Not only does Keller share insight into his own marriage, but he also informs readers about long term marriage experience. Drawing on Biblical wisdom and what he’s learned counseling people through the years, Keller’s wisdom is invaluable.
Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
Purchase “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” by Les and Leslie Parrott
When two people commit to navigating life together, tools are required for success. Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott apply their degrees and experience in writing a comprehensive guide on everything from sex and money to learning to fight respectfully.
The Five Love Languages
Purchase “The Five Love Languages” by Gay Chapman
Chapman’s concept of differing love languages remains one of the most discussed ideas on human relationship. Throughout the book, he demonstrates how understanding love styles can open the door to better communication, reconciliation, understanding, and happiness in marriage.
Total Money Makeover
Purchase “Total Money Makeover” by Dave Ramsey
Money is the only thing more intimate than romantic intimacy. It’s also one of the biggest problems – as any divorce attorney can attest. Fortunately, Dave Ramsey has a plan for creating predictability and fiscal responsibility in marriage and life. His tried and true methods will set any couple on the path to financial success.
Bonus
Jordan Peterson wrote a book several years back titled “Beyond Order: 12 More Rules.” In the book, he discusses how to avoid complacency, which is a destructive disposition. Chapter 10 deals with romance and marriage. From a psychological vantage, it’s remarkably insightful.
Each of these books is amazing on its own, but collectively the wisdom in these books is transformative.